Be a Mean Parent

OK, the title of this post is a little misleading.  Don’t take me the wrong way.  I’m not advocating being an ACTUAL mean or bad parent.  However, I know all parents have been accused of being “mean” by their kids.  Example:  Parent – “no, you can’t have ice cream for dinner.”  Child – “you’re so mean!”

It’s time to END the entitlement culture of the upcoming generation.  Parents, it starts with you.  Read the article below.  Yes, it focuses on the practical steps to helping kids become grateful instead of entitled…but it isn’t just our actions towards our kids, but our own attitudes and words.

numbers 4 and 5 are particularly poignant.

http://www.howdoesshe.com/how-mean-parents-raise-grateful-kids-5-things-to-stop-doing/

For Christians, we have been given every good gift in Jesus.  He is enough.   I don’t mean that when we follow Christ we get abundance.  I mean that when we follow Christ WE GET CHRIST!  And that is all we need.

Matt

Heroine is Here

During my second week on the Cape, my wife and I went down to Harwichport to walk around in the cold of late winter.  We stopped in a store that sold decorative nick-nacks.  We were the only customers, so we got to chat with the owner for about 15 minutes.  I told him I was a youth pastor in Brewster.  The first thing he said to me was, “Good for you.  You know, these kids are dealing with a lot of drug problems.  It starts with the pills but then they can’t afford the pills so they move to heroine.”  I can’t over emphasize it…This was the first thing he said to me when he found out i work with teenagers.  Addiction, specifically to pills and heroine.

Parents, please don’t be naive.  Please don’t think, “My kid would never…”  Maybe they aren’t using.  Maybe they never will.  But be attentive, and be careful about what prescriptions you have around the house.

This article from The Cape Cod Times speaks about the local problem, but comments on data from a nation-wide study conducted by the CDC from 2002-2013.  It’s more than worth a read:

http://www.capecodtimes.com/article/20150708/NEWS/150709409

Please talk with your kids.  Your attitudes, behaviors, and concerns will do more to help your kids then I will ever be able to do.  Be rooted in love, grounded in God’s word, and full of compassion.

Matt

A Word of Encouragement and a Word of Challenge

Parents, if you are rooted in God’s word you will have a leg-up on the rest of our culture.  Listen to this short clip of CPYU’s Walt Mueller talking about the importance of parenting rooted in scripture:

http://www.cpyu.org/resource/parenting-and-gods-word/

Now a challenge.  Are your kids taking the place of God in your hear?  Specifically, are your kid’s sports become an idol for you AND your family?  Listen again to Walt Mueller in this 1 minute audio clip:

http://www.cpyu.org/resource/sports-parenting/

Are sports taking away from your child’s spiritual development?  Is soccer taking the place of church or youth group?  Is youth group a less important activity than baseball?  Maybe i’m biased, but the real heart of my question is – are you prioritizing sports over faith?

Think about it.

Matt